DWQA Questionsتصنيف: علم النفس التربوي للأطفالhow to deal with a one year old nagger all day
HallaBarajakly سأل قبل 12 شهر

Hello for the past few weeks my one year old won\’t stop nagging-crying for no good reason ALL DAY LONG!!!  He only wants me! He wants me to hold him or hug him  I tried everything, we played together, danced, made funny voices, we go out to socialize (he love people) I even let him cry with tears!!!  But now I don\’t know what to do i don\’t want him to become spoiled – Mama\’s boy  and I\’m exhausted  help me plz

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Sirsa QurshaSirsa Qursha فريق العمل اجيب عليه قبل 12 شهر

Hello, thank you for your question. What you are experiencing is very normal for this age group, babies between 8-12 months experience stranger and separation anxiety which is to be expected. Right now your baby knows he is separate from you at the same time, he may be  slowly moving out from your lap and is starting to explore his surroundings which can also be scary with so many faces and so much around him! What is also happening is that your son now knows that what he can’t see, still exists in the world, which is referred to as object permanence. What can help you is the following: 

  • Provide a safe base for exploration so that your toddler can walk around and explore but always come back to you when he’s feeling scared 
  • Encourage his exploration, when he’s walking around and something frightens him you can say: “you’re safe, I am right here if you need me”
  • Develop and stick to routines, this helps your baby expect changes in his day and helps know what’s coming
  • Play hide and seek games with your son so he knows that you disappear and reappear
  • Always say goodbye if you are leaving him, even if for a short period of time. Keep it brief but always tell him you love him and you will come back
  • Try and manage your own emotions, if you are upset when your baby cries that will make it even more difficult for him. Make sure you are checking in with how you’re feeling

Remember, it’s a phase and it does get better, make sure to check out our articles on early childhood development and to check in if you need more assistance!