Are you ready for the “terrible twos” mom? Because this period is all about your toddler’s self-assertion! Not only are toddlers very eager to explore different things, but also they are very egocentric during this period. Make sure you don’t take this personally, but your toddler will want to do lots of things on his own. Make sure to be around to support his independence and guide him along the way.

Physical/Motor

• I can feed myself with a spoon.

• I help you wash my own hands.

• I can build a tower of 3-4 blocks.

• I love to open cabinets, drawers, and boxes. Remember, I am very curious.

• I can walk up steps with help.

• I can hold a crayon in my fist to scribble.

Sensory - Cognitive

• I love to explore surroundings.

• I point to my eyes, ears, or nose when you ask.

• I show awareness of parental approval or disapproval for my actions.

• I refer to myself by name and use "me" and "mine."

• I can help dress myself up.

• Hide and seek is one of my favorite games! I’m learning that just because I can’t see things doesn’t mean they don’t exist. (This is important as your toddler is learning that you will return after leaving him for a while.)

• I love to dance and sing.

• I learn when I imitate you and other children.

Communication & Speech Development

• I continue to use gestures and "baby talk" to communicate (i.e. refers to a cow as "moo-moo").

• I can say about 50 words and can use 2-3 word sentences.

• I can verbalize my desires and feelings ("I want cookie").

• I hum or try to sing.

Social-Emotional (Play)

• can now tolerate changes in my daily routine and environment without getting upset.

• I like to imitate parents.

• I may act shy around strangers.

• I initiate play, smile, and make eye contact with other children or adults.

• I can occupy myself for 15 min while an adult is nearby, and I can play independently for 10 min.

• I sometimes get angry and have temper tantrums. I also understand “no” but still need help controlling my emotions when I’m not allowed to do something.

Mom, here’s what you can do for me when I’m between 18-24 months:

• Work with me on expanding my vocabulary. When I say “cat,” turn my words into a phrase: “Yes, the cat jumped off the wall.”

• Label my emotions. “I know you’re upset you can’t stay and play. It’s okay to feel upset. When we go home, you can play or read.”

• Try to avoid doing everything for me; this encourages independence and the ability to problem-solve.

• During a "struggle" with me, redirect my attention instead of saying "no.”

• Encourage me to take a break when you see I’m frustrated with a certain activity.

• Offer me choices and encourage decision making each day: “Do you want milk or water?” This is important because you are encouraging thinking skills and also promoting independence.

• Be aware of your own actions and words; remember, I am learning from you.

• So if you want me to be kind, calm, and respectful, make sure you do those things yourself.

Act early

Talk to my doctor if by 24 months I:

• Do not use two-word sentences (“my toy”)

• Do not follow simple instructions

• Do not copy actions and words

• Do not walk steadily and can’t push wheeled toys

• Lose a skill I once had